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The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible... Richard M. De Vos, Billionaire Entrepreneur. If you think more in critical terms, you will observe that your mind does not have to work very hard to believe all the negative stuff you think about yourself. It is an easier trend to believe you are not good enough, not able to trail- blaze, not to be accepted and all of those negative thoughts.  You see, most of the improvements in your life come from changing the negative beliefs or thought patterns you have about yourself and your potential. Personal growth comes from changing your beliefs about what you expect you can do and about what is possible for you.  The supremely confident person thinks, beliefs, and expects with every cell and fibre of their being that they will succeed and win in life. Self-doubters always expect to fail or lose or they simply stay neutral and accep

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I believe it's the heart desire of vision driven people to advance and make progress in specific areas of interest. As we cultivate these desires in our hearts, it is important that we get ready to yield to the experiences that comes with a next -level increase.  We celebrate our victories when we have our heart desires met, but on a second thought, those hearts desires have generated a next level challenge which we have to deal with at different points. For instance you were trusting God for a child, and now the child has come, you have celebrated the answered prayer but you have reduced hours of sleep, you are a bit stressed out, sometimes you wish you could hand the baby over to your mum and have some good sleep you know. The idea is this, the desire has been met, and the challenges are there to train you as you deal with them.  My younger brother who has been enthusiastic about studying in the UK after going through the rigorous processes is now living  his dreams an

Hello friends, hope you all are having a great year already. Just few weeks ago, we wished our families and friends a happy new year- with high expectations.  And few days from now, we will say bye bye to January and we will usher in another month. The year is already one month gone.  What have you achieved so far? Are you still lying down all covered up in dust? You haven't stood up yet? Are you still crying over those spilled milk? Are you still lost?  Whatever you may be going through, I want you to know that time waits for no man.  And while you are still there wallowing in self pity,  your mates have gone far, already achieving their set goals. There's still time for you my friend. Stand up and dust yourself up.  There's greatness inside of you. Why not spark up that little light in you. You have cried enough, regretted enough, blamed enough. Now, it is time for you to do yourself some good by setting up your life. Get up and move my friend.  When you ha

A friend of mine boldly told me that her mother said, "To live long you must be selfish". I pondered over this statement for a while and i wondered why and how such line of thought could spring up from a motherly figure. I am not being judgemental but then  I thought about It and as much as I could relate to that but I would like to share my analysis and paradigm. Possibly she might have had her shares of disappointments, heartbreaks, betrayals and an a consistent negative response to her genuine motives. However this piece is neither to agree nor disagree with her opinion because most often than not we are shaped by our experiences and choices.    As much as I respect the underpinning rationale behind her assumptions and choice of dealing with her experiences, it is ideal to understand how much our rash ideologies and actions affect the people around us. Responding to the issues of life from the stand point of how it affects us alone can push us into formulating i

It takes a glowing bulb to attract night insects, just let your light shine and kings of all climes will locate you. Their coming to you is not limited by space, location or geographical propinquity; it takes your radiance to attract them. Shine all you can, that’s all you need to do. Playmaking Techniques BRAINSTORMING Creating Ideas  EXTRACTING DRAMATIC POTENTIAL FROM THE STIMULUS MATERIAL Using given things to create and include in the performance  RESEARCHING Searching for ideas to turn into scenes  IMPROVISATION From the research and brainstorming creating scenes  REHEARSING From the scenes, practicing what you have done BLOCKING Running through the performance learning the order  CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT After practicing and running through work on the characters ROLE PLAY Playing other characters to work on your own  SCRIPTING Make sure that each person knows what they have to say each time. EDITING Work out whic

YOUR MIND SEES FARTHER THAN YOUR PHYSICAL EYES. DO NOT MAKE YOUR MIND A DUMPING GROUND. MAKE IT A FRUITFUL GROUND. YOU CAN BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU CAN SEE IT WITH THE EYES OF YOUR MIND.  NEME...

"A MAN WHO HONOURS HIS MOTHER, WILL GIVE HIS WIFE A LIFE OF ROYALTY. SO WATCH OUT HOW HE TREATS  HIS MOTHER". 

A lot of suggestions showed up regarding the definition of the word "Exist". Some perceive it to connote "having an objective reality or being" others think it means to live, especially under harsh conditions. I quite agree with the later definition because I have seen a lot of people who walk on the surface of this earth that are just existing. They have given up and have accepted the situation as their "fate or destiny" as the cases differ. They argue about politics, sit down for hours engaging in meaningless conversations, discuss their issues, not objectively to profer solution but to continue from where they stopped in the blame-game defence mechanism. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with discussing who the next president will be and the possibilities of giving you a better democracy, but friend, there is a life that is bigger than that.  The glory which you seek unfortunately isn't transferable, but it's within your power

How would you rate your ability to control your emotions, to pause before acting or reacting? How would your friends, children, or work colleagues rate your emotional control?  Has someone deeply offended you recently? How did you respond? Were you magnanimous? How would you respond differently if again given the same circumstances?  One of the highest forms of magnanimity is forgiveness. Is forgiveness a consistent part of who you are as a person?  When life comes at us hard, sometimes a portion of properly placed humor can help us to adapt. Have you learnt to laugh even in the midst of challenging moments?

YOUR PAST IS NEVER A GOOD PLACE TO VISIT. IT IS WISE NOT TO TAKE A PEEP INTO THE PAST, BECAUSE THERE IS NOTHING GOOD TO FIND THERE, ONLY DOUBTS, FEARS, GUILTS, MISTAKES.  NEME...

Happy weekend friends. Just to share with you a little conversation I had with a colleague yesterday. Read below: Enkay: "I have come to realise that when you are happy and successful in your marriage or career or you are succeeding generally, people (friends) are not genuinely happy for you. But when u have a lot to complain about, advisers will be flowing in left, right and centre. I feel it is safe if one keeps some of those things going well for one with one and loved ones and do not make it so public for people to see".  Here's my response: Well... the truth is "a gold fish does not have a hiding place". So your success always announces you, no matter how hard you try to hide it. Then I ask, what do you do? Just be wise and hide yourself and all your successes to GOD.  Then and only then will you be safe!  Do you think my colleague is right? Do you think am right as well? Please share your thoughts.

Do you want to get married because: You are of age? Your mates are getting married? You want to run away from your parents strict discipline? You want to have sex freely without feeling guilty? You need a man to support you financially? You are being pressurised to get married? You cannot face some challenges alone? You are lonely? You are not getting any younger? and alot more wrong reasons I believe these questions are very familiar. But I would like you to pause and reflect. Marriage is an institution of enjoyment not endurance (of pains, sorrow, bitterness to mention but a few). You need to get it right as to why you really want to get married, but definitely not for the above wrong reasons.  GOD is the originator of marriage and the perfect match maker. So it will be wise if you consult HIM. Your marriage must be ordained by GOD before you can be assured that nothing can and will ever go wrong no matter what.  Time to reflect!

One day, when I was about five, I told my grandfather a lie. It was not a very black lie. My grandfather asked our gardner to bring a long ladder and place it against the front of the roof. When the ladder was firmly in place he said to the gardner, "Our boy has taken to leaping from housetops. The ladder is for him to use when he so desires. "I knew at once what this meant, for one of the proverbs in our distinct was: "A lie is a leap from a house-top." "I brooded in silence. It was awkward to have the ladder before the front door. I began to fear that it would be there forever if I did not do something. I found my grandfather reading a book and I went quietly up to him and buried my face in his lap. "Grandpa," I said, "we do not need the ladder any more." He seemed very happy. He called the gardner and said to him: "Take the ladder away at once. Our boy does not leap from house-tops. " I will never forget that inci

The problems you encounter do not define you. What matters is how you deal with these problems. Your ability to face your problems and conquer them makes it easier to handle challenges. Most importantly, you must identify what these problems are, because "you cannot fight what you are not aware of". Problems fear actions. These problems will remain until you take necessary steps (actions) to bring them to an end. Be determined to face your problems head on!   Please share with us how you were able to defeat your problems.

LOVE IS STRONGER THAN SICKNESS. IT IS STRONGER THAN DISEASE. IT IS STRONGER THAN POVERTY. BUILD YOUR DAILY AGENDA AROUND WHAT YOU TRULY AND CONSCIOUSLY LOVE.

I marvel at people who say " I do not have a price tag. I do not expect anything in return. I just want to live my life". And I really wonder where they got this mean idea from. If you do not have a price tag, then anyone can afford you. You are not valued. You can always be used and dumped. You will never be appreciated. That ideology of not expecting anything in return simply means you are not sure of your own self and as such you do not regard yourself. We are living in a world whereby you are treated the way you present yourself. If you are not treated with love, respect, appreciation, then there is every possibility that you might have marked yourself down! It is never too late to get back on. You must love yourself first before you can be loved by anyone else. By so, you will know when you are not getting the right treatment, love, care, affection, appreciation. Life is too beautiful not to be appreciated and live happily knowing that you are worth loving. Do not buy

THE BEST GIFTS DO NOT ALWAYS ARRIVE IN SILK. THEY ARE MOSTLY DISGUISED.   NEME..

In the race for quality, there is no finish line. David T. Kearns Who doesn't like the feel of quality? Whether it comes from a well-made car, a fine woven piece of clothing, a well carved furniture, a stable building, a delectable meal,  an intricate technological device, a precise musical performance, a finely tuned work team, or a form of appearance, quality has an appealing feel.  In all of the desire to either deliver quality or sustain it, it also has its price as demonstrated by some persons in their various fields of fulfilment.  Johnny Carson who for thirty years tickles the delights of enormous television audiences. His smile and laughter were obviously contagious as nightly he relieved listeners of their days stresses. But while he made he made it appear so effortless, in "Here's Johnny," we learnt just how hard Johnny worked to maintain his high standards of quality.  The quality of what we produce or the services we render as an emplo

Many marriages struggle when one or both spouses start to show destructive behaviour. This happened with Karen and me. We got married at 19 years old. Neither of us had a clue about marriage. We blamed each other for what was wrong with our marriage. But blaming doesn't help in a destructive marriage. The only way to fix it is by recognizing the behavior and correcting it.  There are four basic reasons people become destructive. The first is ignorance. Some people just don't know any better. This was the case with us. We didn't know how to succeed in relationships. When you grow up in a broken home, you don't have a successful marriage to learn from. Your only models are failed marriages and unhealthy relationships. We've never met any couple who got married in hopes of getting divorced. That's crazy. But so few people have the resources to succeed. That's why our ministry works so hard to teach people about marriage. We want to provide t

YOU ARE NOT ASSIGNED TO EVERYBODY. YOU ARE NOT ASSIGNED EVERYWHERE. YOU CANNOT SOLVE EVERY KIND OF PROBLEM. ...MIKE MURDOCK

Water is the main component of the body composed of between 55 and 78 percent water. We enjoy great health benefits when we consume adequate and regular quantity of water. As an added advantage to its tasteless, odourless, and colourless state, it has zero level carbohydrates, calories, fat or sugar which makes it the most health liquid to be consumed.  Further more, the institute of Medicine has determined the adequate intake of total beverage per day to be about three litres or 13 cups for men and 2.2 litres or nine cups for women. This recommended quantities obviously highlight the very need to ensure the regular intake of water to keep the body well hydrated for proper functioning of every cell in the body. I will share with you some of the research based and realistic health benefits of drinking water. One of the obvious benefits we have enjoyed is that it aids in proper digestion of food and prevents constipation because it improves the functioning of the gastroin

CHAMPIONS SPEND THEIR TIME BUILDING THEIR DREAMS. EVEN WHEN CRITICS ATTACK THEM. NEME.

DO NOT EXPECT TO HAVE A HARVEST WHEN YOU HAVE NOT PLANTED ANY SEED.         NEME...

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