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"When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece" John Ruskin When asked why people invent, Mark Twain replied, "To give birth to an idea-to discover a great thought-an intellectual nugget, right under the dust of a field that many a brain-plow had gone over before. To be the first-that is to put yourself into something innovative and worthwhile, and then to see it come to fruition. But the process of creating can be a roller coster of heights and lows, ecstasies and despairs before you experience the reward.  Recognising Vision as a principle that enables the art of creating.  "Determine that the thing can and shall be done and then we shall find the way"  Abraham Lincoln. All things are created twice. All things. Vision is the first creation. For a house it is called a mission. For a day it is called a goal and a plan. For a parent it is called a belief in the unseen potential of a child. For all, it is the mental

The mother and her child are inseparable, It is amazing how the journey began; They breathed the same air; And shared the same heart beat; Fed the same food and gained the same nourishment; The child felt every emotion the mother felt from the womb; Their "lives" unexplainably intertwined; Could such bond be severed? Hardly! Even if one attempts to deny its existence; An invisible cord; It grows stronger and gets better; It is truly amazing how this journey began....

A woman's hair is her pride. Notice that your hair most times make an impression about you. No wonder we spend a lot of money to keep our hair fixed, braided, and groomed (for those of us that wear our natural hairs often). I have found out that women would have loved to be going more on their natural hairs, if they can grow healthy hairs. So I went through a research and found out that there are actually some food that enhances hair growth. Here are a few of them... Sunflower Seeds- There was a time I used to experience hair breakage and my hair stylist introduced me to Sunflower seeds. I tried it and it works. Sunflower seeds are enriched with Vitamin E which enhances the flow of blood to the scalp that helps the hair to grow. Spinach- contains high level of Vitamin C, Beta Caroten, Iron and Folate, which keeps the hair follicles  healthy. Sweet Potato- is a good source of antioxidant such as Vitamin C, E and Carotenoids which help to protect the

I  once heard someone say that laughter is like internal jogging...no wonder the Bible says that a merry heart does good like medicine. (Prov. 17:22) Laughter not only makes the journey endurable and enjoyable, it also helps keep us healthy. Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain and conflict. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. I sincerely think you need to include laughing sessions as part of your daily itinerary because a nice sense of humour carries strong components that rejuvenates your spirit as it lightens your burden, inspires hope, connects you to others, and keeps you focused and alert.   As much as laughter has a lot of health, social, and therapeutic benefits, it has spiritual implication. Think about this, you are faced with challenging circumstances yet you choose to deliberately laugh out loud...this action reaffirms your convictions that you will finish

Did you know that washing your face can cause your skin a whole lot of discomfort like dryness, irritation and breakouts if not done properly? I used to experience a lot of irritation and dryness, which was a very big concern to me, until I met a dermatologist who advised me on how to take care of my skin. Enjoy your weekend as you try out what worked for me. Pick the right products. It is very important that you find out what works for your skin. The product your friend is using might not be good for you. Do not wash your face more than twice a day. Too much of it causes skin irritation. If you did not wear make up, you might have to skip using your cleanser before going to bed. Do not exfoliate too much. I used to exfoliate everyday and that was not good at all. As much as it helps to remove dead cells, it could also damage your skin if not used moderately. So I recommend you exfoliate twice a week. Use a good product. It does not necessarily mean that you mu

Getting Started; We all know that real communication is not just a matter of uttering words. Did you realize just how little impact what we actually say has on people we are speaking to? In a face-to face situation, like a presentation, between 55 and 65 percent of your meaning is communicated by your body language- your posture, movements, gesticulation, and facial expressions-and 38 percent comes from your tone of voice which could either communicate confidence or fear or pride. That leaves just seven percent to be conveyed by the words you use.  In addition, researchers also agree that the verbal part of the communication is used to convey information, while the non-verbal part is used to convey values, feelings, and attitudes...the things that build rapport.  It's obvious then, that if you can learn to understand and control body language in a conscious way, you can make an enormous difference to the impact you have on your audience or  the per

WISDOM FOR LIVING Your success is determined by what you are willing to ignore.  Stop talking about your failures if you really want to succeed. King David's secret was that he was only conscious of victory and not defeat.  Do not try to always correct everything around you. Learn how to ignore some certain things.  It helps alot. Every successful marriage is the willingness to trivialise some issues. Make some decisions that bring peace. Bitterness is deadlier than injustice.  The worst person to look up to is a man or woman who has no focus. Money or a career should serve a marriage;  a marriage should never serve money or career.

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT I have heard a lot of women talk about their husbands, and it is only few that have said really nice things about their husbands. While this has been a deep concern to me, I did a little research about why these women do not feel happy and satisfied with their husbands. Most of them talked about how busy their husbands are which is the reason why they spend little or no time at all with their families. And as such, a big gap is created in the relationship between the man and his wife and his children which causes disunity, constant misunderstanding between the man and his wife and generally creating an unhealthy relationship.  There is an adage which says, where your heart is, there lies your treasure. So no matter how busy a man is, he will always create time for his family, if he really cares about them and anything short of that is a mere excuse. The man needs to understand that his wife needs his undivided attention from time to time. He can stre

Often times I have come across people who feel that they are not as fortunate as others.  And I feel bad seeing them do less or not even contribute at all to their society because of what their environment or society had turned them into. But on one on one encounter,  these same people prove to be no where at all, what the society calls them. They seem to be more open and more lively and have a lot to offer. This is a case of a little girl who was unfortunate to have become a victim of life challenging circumstance, and when everyone else had given  up on her, after series of encounters with the right people who helped her come back up,  and groomed her into knowing how special and valuable she is, no matter what the society thought of her, she decided to let her past go.  Right now, this little girl, whom the society termed incapable has grown into a strong and confident woman. That is why it is very important not be in a hurry to throw away someone, just beca

I got a call from a younger friend today, she is 13 years old. She told me how she likes reading my posts and how she was touched by the article, "a friend indeed" I posted this morning. We got talking and she told me how difficult it has been for her to keep a lasting friendship with her female friends and how she wishes she could have at least one friend she can call "a friend indeed".  While I probed further, she started crying and told me that her friends do not like her. She said she does not hold back anything from her friends  and that she treats them very nicely and makes them feel at home whenever they are around her, but whenever they have little argument, they say a lot of hurtful things to her. She got so emotional, but I was able to calm her down and told her that everything will be alright.  However, she said her mom is aware of the whole situation and she gave her possible reasons why her friendship with these friends do not last.  Hear

The popular expression " A friend in need, is a friend indeed" often times is used to affirm the true value of friendship.  A friend's worth is measured when there is a consistent display of actions that communicates value. No wonder the Bible puts it this way..."Iron sharpens iron, so does a friend sharpen the countenance of his friend". Countenance as used here is a Metaphor for every form of support that moves your friend to the right direction.  It is easy to attribute "help" to financial resources, but "help" as it were could be a hand to hold, a heart that understands, an ear that will listen and provide valuable contributions without being judgemental, a voice of reason that strengthens your faith even when it feels like the world is closing in on you.   In the world we are in today, we hardly find "friends in deed" who care a great deal and could go out of their way to put on hold tempo

The story of the woman with hemorrhage recorded in the synoptic gospels is very pathetic but didactic. It conveys a great moral lesson on the power of thoughts. It is very glaring from her biography narrated in the gospels that nothing in life changes until thoughts are altered. Everything works according to the frequency of thoughts released by man. She had spent all her estate yet there was no amelioration in her state. Despite the care of many medical experts and professionals her case grew worse. Until she changed her thoughts healing never came forth.  Lives change because men think right. Things equally get worse because men simply don’t think. Thoughts are very powerful. Thoughts become things. The world around us existed first in the realm of thoughts. This woman not only lost her wealth, dignity and affluence; her relatives and friends abandoned her. As long as she kept thinking negatively, her illness worsened, her finances dissipated, until she became derelict. The ne

I sometimes wonder how life would have been were I the only one living on the planet. The thought of it is Inexplainable. The world would have been terribly lonely. Imagine how lonely Adam was when his only company were the animals. No wonder GOD said "it is not good that the man should be alone". HE knew that Adam would not have survived another day alone,  that was why  HE made him a companion,  Eve. However, GOD understands the importance of family.  HE understood that Adam could not function without family.  That is why family is very important.  In other words, no man is an island. You cannot be so wealthy or too important to not want to involve yourself in the family. I have seen a lot of people who do not joke with their families and I have seen people who have said they can do without "family". It is only a matter of time, they come crawling back.   Someone once said, that it is important to remember what life is all about - the lo

A colleague and I had a debate on the issue of a single lady owning a car and it really was a very big one. Having spent so much on taxis,  She is considering  buying a car before the end of the year. But she has a very big challenge on that. She said that her parents advised her seriously not to ever do that, because they are of the opinion that the car will drive men or better put, suitors away from her. She even concurred and gave me instances about some single ladies that she knows that own their cars and are finding it difficult to get married, because the men are scared of them. I could not relate to that at all. Seriously? How could that be? Unless the ladies have been meeting the wrong ones. Well, I told her that those reasons are false, because, owning a car to me is a necessity not a luxury, especially in some big cities where transportation is on the high side. After much debate on that, I was able to convince her to go ahead and buy her car and live her life. I do not

You guys remembered my friend that wrote me about her relationship and how she felt her boy friend is not being real to her? Here is her reply to my advise. I am happy for her. I hope we will always make the right decision, no matter what. READ HERE..... Dear Neme, Hope you are doing well. I just want to give you an update about my boyfriend and I. I actually thought I was going to get some response from your readers, but all the same, I followed your advice. You said something about running before I make a terrible mistake and I thought about it for a while. When I could not come up with any tangible decision, I took it to God in prayers. Dear Neme, as I write to you, we are over with the relationship. I was able to tell him boldly that I was fed up with the relationship. Initially he thought I was joking, but when he saw the seriousness in me, he became serious as well. He said that it is not possible, that I cannot leave him. He even told me that he is the last man st

THE IMAGE OF PICTURES Each time I take a picture, either a personal or a group one, I am always very keen to see how I appeared in the picture. I find myself taking multiple pictures just to make sure I capture an image that appeals to my emotion...I keep taking pictures because I haven't found one that wows me and reveals the expression I want to  communicate, however I keep taking the shots until that which I seek is delivered either in black and white or in coloured. Everywhere I go, on the road, at events, in schools, in malls, even in taxi's, I see people posing to take pictures. The intriguing  part of this daily activity is that it cuts across all categories of people; children, teenagers, adults and more advanced persons.  Basically, different  emotions are  attached to pictures and as much as they  preserve memories of "the good old days", they remind us of the days of little beginning, folks that came into our lives, people

"Let no man's heart fail because of him; your servant will go and fight with this Philistine."  1 Samuel 17:32 People will not follow a leader who does not have confidence in himself. In fact, people are naturally attracted to people who convey confidence. An excellent example of this can be seen in an incident that occurred in Russia during an attempted coup. Army tanks surrounded the government building that housed President Boris Yeltsin and his pro-democracy supporters. High-level military leaders had ordered the tank commander to open fire and kill Yeltsin. As the army rolled into position, Yeltsin strode from the building, climbed up on a tank, looked the commander in the eye, and thanked him for coming over to the side of democracy. Later the commander admitted that although they had not intended to go over to his side, Yeltsin had appeared so confident and commanding that the soldiers  decided to join him. Confidence is a characteristic of a positive a

There is a place inside of you.  Where love should be. Do not throw it aside. Just believe.  Do not let the pain you feel tear your world apart.  Look inside of you and be strong.  Tell yourself, you are a miracle.  I know sometimes it seems you are alone.  But the truth is, all you need to become is right inside of you. You only need to believe in yourself.   Do not be afraid.  Do not doubt yourself.  I have heard some people say "they will never do good again, because there is no gain.  You know two wrongs cannot make a right.   Because you feel that there is so much wickedness in this world, does not mean you should lose faith and become evil.   You can always make a difference by standing out.  You feel you are down today?  Just because things did not turn out the way you wished they would? Just because you felt you are drowning and no one is there to give you a helping hand,  Or you wish you can turn  back the hands of time, For wh

Beauty is a characteristic of a person, animal, place, object, or ideal that provides a perceptual experience of pleasure or satisfaction. As much as "beauty" has a conventional perception, it is more personal than collective in the sense that the ideals that typify beauty are   peculiar to individuals which possibly could  transcend to values that enrich an environment. This enrichment is beyond the structures, monumental edifices, and trends that evolve and decamp with the passage of time. Due to how divergent our society is and how people yield to different ideologies, it is important to hold on to fundamental, timeless truths that have build us up from the onset. This is not to champion stagnation at the expense of development but to sieve ideologies instead of accepting everything hook line and sinker.     What makes one beautiful? Is it the physical attraction that continually sweeps people off their feet? I am a firm promoter of the concept of looking go

THAT... Never allow your ugly past to bring you down. Never let it determine your future. Let your past motivate you to speak to your present situation because, there is power in every word you speak.  Every word you speak is a spirit. So, choose it wisely. Thankfulness is the key to you success. Success is not by struggle. How you present yourself determines how people treat you. When your reasoning is high, you will maintain a high level of progression. Troubles are not to mar you but to make you. There must be a battle before victory. If you are a giver, expect to have your harvests. It takes the humility of a lamb to establish the authority of a lion. Until you know what is written about you, you will not understand your place. Your relevance is tied to your finding or discovering your purpose. When you understand your destiny, you will have dignity. Everything that has value requires effort.  Nothing that is free ever has value. If you do not value yoursel

Hello There..... Hope you had a great week. I have a little piece  for your lifting. Enjoy as you read and get refreshed.  Excellence means a state of possessing good qualities in an eminent degree; exalted degree; superiority in virtue. How amazing.  Do you know that one does not just become excellent without having to go through some "work outs"?  Not keeping fit physically (which is good), but working on your "being". The bible says in Daniel 5:11-12, that Daniel had an excellent spirit, knowledge and understanding to interpret dreams, explain riddles, and solve problems.  Thomas Edison said "Genius is one percent inspiration, but 99 percent transpiration. To strive for excellence, here are a few things you need to do: Change what you see. Change your vision. Look beyond what you see. Learn to go the extra mile. Stop being satisfied with just "being there". Excellence requires handwork. Try paying attention

1. After writing down your long-term career goal, the next action is to list a series of step-by-step specific positions you want to reach with specific rewards and benefits for each level. 2. Create mini-goals that add value to your resume, such as a more advanced degree, special training, team projects, or management experiences that will prepare you for the next level. 3. Put time lines on each set goal and mini-goals, starting with one month and then going to three months, six months, one year, five years, eight years and ten years. 4. For each mini-goal, write a positive affirmation stating why the goal is important to you and how it will help you move closer to your primary goal.   Yes we can! Nothing can stop us! We have what we say. So let us get it going! Keep shining my friends. 

Problems are temporary interruptions in a plan that produces discouragement, disappointments and distress to make us derail from out set plan. In the book of 2corintians 4:7, the scriptures show that we are never abandoned by God no matter how tough and distressing the situation appears. When you have such understanding it automatically reflects in your attitude. Problems are opportunities in disguise; they reveal (A). Wrong direction in your life; Many times in your life journey, you may never realize you are in the wrong direction until a major problem springs up and exposes the dangers ahead of the path you are treading on. (B). Weaknesses in your vision and ideas; Until your ideas are tested by problems, you may never know how ineffective they are and as such you may never have the opportunity to improve and consolidate value. (C). The state of your heart; the response and attitude you display in the midst of turbulent times reveals the state of your heart. It exposes

Sometimes all we need is a hug from the right person and all the stress melt away. How many times do you give your spouse and children those encouraging hugs? It should be a habit if you ask me. Because you never know how much those little seeds you sow will yield you.  Your greatest test is when you are able to bless someone else while you are going through your own storm. Because there couldn't have been a better time to sow  than such time.  Do not try to take the short cut or the easy road, rather take the right road, no matter how long it takes. Because most times, anything done in a haste is never done well. GOD will make for you what you make happen for others.  When someone is willing to go all the way with you, do not take them for granted.  Never look down on anyone. For GOD opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.   Be kind to the people you meet on your way up, because you will surely meet them on your way down. 

All that glitters is not gold. This is a well-known saying, which means that not everything that looks precious or true turns out to be so. This can apply to people, places, or things that promise to be more than they really are.  A lot of us have fallen victims to such. And it is unfortunate that some people's lives were affected badly and they never came out of the nightmare. While some of us got "lucky" to have gotten up. It is quite hard to be deceived by someone you trusted,  someone you could swear would never hurt or harm you. I could relate to that very well.  But I have a little word of encouragement to such that reads this.  You know, we cannot be completely  careful- meaning that no matter how careful or smart or intelligent you are,  there is someone out there who is smarter and more intelligent than you. Someone is out there upping his/her game. So you cannot even tell when you are being deceived until the deed is done. I can hear y